me in my life.

I'm walking through a season of refining my character and redefining my dreams for the future.

Bob has been gracious to step in as a personal coach during this season and he is challenging my socks off in grace-filled ways.

Bob unpacks the Dream Big Framework in 7 parts:

Set Absurd Expectations
Explore Opportunities
Clear the Path
Take Action
Expect Setbacks
Sustain Belief
Land the Plane

Everyone walks away from Dream Big ready to take on the world in positive ways.

For me, there were three big ideas that Bob challenged me with that I thought I'd share here...

1) WHAT DO I WANT TO BE KNOWN FOR?

When I spend time with Bob on the phone for coaching calls, he keeps asking me the same powerful question: "Who is in my chair?"

What he's asking is, what do I want to be known for?

My titles range from 'Daddy' to 'Comedian' to 'Pastor' to 'Author.' That's a lot of titles to carry! But a title is not who I am; they are roles I have the privilege of stepping into.

What I'm wrestling through now is how do I take the richness of my past experiences/wisdom and make them more accessible to help more people going forward?

Jesus was always going around changing people's names and their destiny's for the better. He's making some changes in my life right now as well. I'm working on making a quarter-twist that will bring greater clarity to my life's mission of helping others. Nailing down what that exactly looks like is the challenge.

I would rather fail as myself rather than succeed pretending to be someone I’m not.

“I would rather fail as myself rather than succeed pretending to be someone I’m not.

2) UNLEARN THE RULES I'VE TOLD MYSELF

Bob pulled out a 16 inch softball invented during the Depression called a 'Clincher Ball.'

The big idea was that the ball was soft enough that you wouldn't need to buy an expensive mitt to catch it and it was large enough that nobody could possibly hit a homerun.

One of the rules I've unconsciously made in my life is that I always have to hit homeruns. If it's not going to ship perfectly, I won't ship it at all.

Bob told me I need to give myself a Clincher Ball: It's not always about hitting homeruns!

Somewhere along the way, I invented this Homerun Rule in my head because something unfair happened to me. Bob told me not to go for FAIR... Go for BEING PRESENT!

Unlearning the rules I've told myself requires just a little bit of time and a little bit of courage.

3) BE BRAVE ENOUGH TO SUCK AT SOMETHING NEW

Playing it safe is too risky.

Somehow along the way, I've slipped into playing it safe.

Bob is challenging me to set absurd expectations in my life again: "Don't let applause or affirmation dictate your choices. Applause is for the circus!"

He boiled it down to three key ideas that are kicking my butt: